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On the famous 1 - in - 4 women are raped study. Note how Koss’ initial results, from Kent State alone, were 1/8, which is biiit of a gap.

Also, Koss, the woman who did the survey, said not to apply her results nationally. There are other concerns as well.

The funny thing is that folks are still trying this sort of chichanery. And getting away with it.

Direct link to the article under discussion: The Making of an Epidemic.

Really worth a read.

  • Feminist: Misandry doesn't exist.
  • Me: Men get sentenced to longer prison terms for the same crime.
  • Feminist: That's misogyny, because women aren't seen as a threat.
  • Me: So is black men being sent to jail longer an instance of black privilege, because white people aren't seen as a threat?



Feminism is technically defined as the fight for equality. A baseball bat is technically defined as a piece of equipment used in sports.

If I beat someone with a baseball bat, I should get charged with assault with a deadly weapon. I do not get to say, “But a bat isn’t a weapon! It’s sports equipment! It is only possible to use it to play baseball!” I used it as a weapon. Therefore, it is, for all intents and purposes, a weapon.

And that is essentially the problem people have with the feminist movement.

I don’t care what the dictionary says. It is how it is used, not how it is defined.

Actually a nice metaphor.

But what I always wonder is why the discussion about feminism is so much… singled out? As if feminism was special.

To be fair, I have seen a few people tray to “out-define” Stalin and Lenin from socialism and communism. And a few try to “out-define” Hitler from  being right-wing.

I always wonder why it is so difficult to accept that, when something reaches a certain size and popularity, the diversity which can be found under a label becomes impossible to summarise in a short, dictionary-like definition. This is true for almost all political movements, all religions etc. etc. so why not for feminism.

Men Get Raped Too.


I’m tired of all this shit on tumblr aimed at men telling them not to rape women. 1) There is an underlying assumption that men can hardly control themselves and are constantly struggling to reign in their rapist tendancies. 2) It detracts from all the sexual abuse men suffer at the hands of women. 3) It makes men feel like utter shits. 4)Both genders suffer from sexual abuse inflicted by both genders. I’m sick of this.

Chris Mackney’s suicide note - the one his ex-wife is trying to remove from the Internet.


Reblog for great justice.

About Chris Mackney

There’s a lot more about him on A Voice For Men but I do not use them as a cite.

The love that my daughter and I shared was truly special. She is a such a sweet, kind and gentle spirit. I am so sorry that I will not be there to see her grow into a beautiful woman. It absolutely crushed me to not be in her life over the last three years. I worked very hard as a father to build her confidence and self-esteem. She is smart, funny and considerate, but she didn’t know it yet. I pray that she realizes her strengths and her confidence in herself will continue to grow. I love you dearly, [name redacted].

My son [name redacted] was just entering Kindergarten, when I lost access to him. He is gregarious, outgoing and a great athlete. He is smart and fearless. He could have just as much fun by himself as he could with other kids. Even the older boys in our neighbourhood wanted to play with [name redacted]. It absolutely breaks my heart that I will not be able to help him grow into a man. I love you to, [name redacted]. I miss you both so much.

My identity was taken from me, as result of this process. When it began, I was a commercial real estate broker with CB Richard Ellis. I lived by the Golden rule and made a living by bringing parties together and finding the common ground. My reputation as a broker was built on my honesty and integrity. When it ended, I was broke, homeless, unemployed and had no visitation with my own children.

I had no confidence and was paralyzed with fear that I would be going to jail whenever my ex-wife wanted. Nothing I could say or do would stop it. This is what being to death or ‘targeted’ by a psychopath looks like. This is the outcome. I didn’t somehow change into a ‘high-conflict’ person or lose my ability to steer clear of the law. I’ve had never been arrested, depressed, homeless or suicidal before this process. The stress and pressure applied to me was deliberate and nothing I could do or say would get me any relief. Nothing I or my attorneys said to my ex-wife’s attorney or to the Court made any difference. Truth, facts, evidence or even the best interest of my children had no affect on the outcome.

The family court system is broken, but from my experience, it is not the laws, its the lawyers. They feed off of the conflict. They are not hired to reduce conflict or protect the best interest of children, which is why third parties need to be involved. It should be mandatory for children to have a guardian ad litem, with extensive training in abuse and aggression.

It is absolutely shameful that the Fairfax County Court did nothing to intervene or understand the ongoing conflict. Judge Randy Bellows also used the Children as punishment, by withholding access for failing to fax a receipt. The entire conflict centered around the denial of access to the children, it was inconceivable to me that he would use children like this. This is exactly what my ex-wife was doing and now Judge Bellows was doing it for her.

To all my family, friends and the people that supported me through this process, I am so sorry. I know my reactions and behavior throughout this process did not always make sense. None of this made sense to me either. I had no help and the only suggestion I got from my attorneys was to remain silent.

At first, I did what I was told, remained silent and listened to my attorneys. Then after I had given my ex-wife full custody to try and appease her, I learned about Psychopathy and emailed Dr. Samenow about my concerns and asked him for help. Of course, I was ignored. As the conflict continued, I was forced to defend myself. When that didn’t work, I thought I could get the help I needed by speaking out. There is no right or wrong way to defend yourself from abuse. Naively, I thought that abuse was abuse and it would be recognized and something would be done. I thought speaking out would end the abuse or at least get them to back off. It didn’t. When no one did anything they were emboldened.

I took my own life because I had come to the conclusion that there was nothing I could do or say to end the abuse. Every time I got up off my knees, I would get knocked back down. They were not going to let me be the father I wanted to be to my children. People may think I am a coward for giving up on my children, but I didn’t see how I was going to heal from this. I have no money for an attorney, therapy or medication. I have lost four jobs because of this process. I was going to be at their mercy for the rest of my life and they had shown me none.

Being alienated, legally abused, emotionally abused, isolated and financially ruined are all a recipe for suicide. I wish I were stronger to keep going, but the emotional pain and fear of going to court and jail [because of exorbitant child support] became overwhelming. I became paralyzed with fear. I couldn’t flee and I could not fight. I was never going to be allowed to heal or recover. I wish I were better at articulating the psychological and emotional trauma I experienced.

I could fill a book with all the lies and mysterious rulings of the Court. Never have I experienced this kind of pain. I asked for help, but good men did nothing and evil prevailed. All I wanted was a Guardian Ad Litem for my children. Any third party would have been easily been able to confirm or refute all of my allegations, which is why none was ever appointed to protect the children or reduce the conflict.

Abuse is about power and control. Stand up for the abused and speak out. If someone speaks out about abuse, believe them.

Please teach my children empathy and about emotional invalidation and ‘gas-lighting’ or they may end up like me.

God have mercy on my soul.

Chris Mackney


there is nothing wrong with being male.

there is nothing wrong with being female.

there is nothing wrong with being white.

there is nothing wrong with being “poc”.

there is nothing wrong with being straight.

there is nothing wrong with being gay or bi or asexual or anything else.

there is nothing wrong with being cis.

there is nothing wrong with being trans.

and the fact that people are being made to feeling guilty about any of these things on this site or irl is fucking disgusting.

This shit is NOT Okay



Creepshots are not okay, taking creep shots of men is also really not okay, and apparently a bunch of websites are devoted to it.  Some of these have been taken in men’s bathrooms.  

"settling the score" by invading men’s privacy is seriously not cool.  Can we please do something about this?  It’s invasive and nasty and these men aren’t the men who contributed to creepshots of women (or at least they’re not targeted for that reason)

I will totally enjoy seeing a hot guy in public (or a hot lady, TBH) but no way in HELL am I ever going to take a photo of someone without their permission for masturbatory purposes.  This is fucked.

YES! A lot of feminists complain about men doing this to women, but you do not realize how many times I have seen creepshots of men. An example would be of that doctor creepshot with comments like “my throat is sore maybe ur dick could soothe it” Not like thats hypocritical or anything.





guys no

misandry is not a thing

stop trying to prove that its a thing

it is not a thing

Yeah it is a thing.  If someone out there hates men, it’s a thing.  And people do; if you look through this tag you can see that.

As for your tags, it doesn’t matter whether it was caused by the patriarchy; if it exists it exists.  And if the Ban Bossy campaign is anything to go by, feminism would far rather make females out to be victims than help males.  Because the campaign not only makes it seem like girls can’t handle criticism, the stats are cherrypicked and meaningless in context.  Meanwhile boys of the same age group are doing worse than girls over the board (something that created a complete over-hall of the educational system when the sexes were reversed) but I guess coddling females is higher on the feminist agenda.

Please don’t dismiss male problems when there is absolutely no moral reasoning to.

Well said!








The German term Fremdscham describes a type of proxy-embarrassment; it’s the feeling of shame you have on behalf of others, often those who don’t realize they should be embarrassed for themselves. I can’t think of a term that better applies to the scene that unfolded at the University of Ottawa two weeks ago.

Professor Janice Fiamengo had planned to speak on men’s issues and rape culture as part of a talk organized by the Canadian Association for Equality (CAFE). The lecture, called “What’s Equality Got To Do With It? Men’s Issues and Feminism’s Double Standards,” was intended to dispel the notion of rape culture, according to Fiamengo, as well as discuss issues such as suicide by young men and custody rights after divorce. But some student activists decided Fiamengo’s lecture was not appropriate, so they took it upon themselves to shut it down.

The entire display is chronicled in a 50-minute YouTube video that shows protesters booing, yelling and blowing a vuvuzela throughout Fiamengo’s attempted address. The lecture organizer tried to reason with protesters, but it didn’t work. Campus security tried to intervene, with little success. Finally, the event moved to another room, but shortly after, the fire alarm went off.

According to the student newspaper the Fulcrum, a group that calls itself the Revolutionary Student Movement (RSM) was behind the protest.

We feel that these ideas have no place on our campus and refuse to legitimize them by allowing them space to organize,” a representative for the RSM wrote in an email to the paper. “As was demonstrated, campus security will not protect our community from events that are harmful to men, women, and trans people in the community, so we decided to stand up for what we feel is right.”

Hold on — ideas have no place on campus? Surely, they can’t be serious.

Alas, the irony of unilaterally deciding “what is right” is apparently lost on this vocal group of freedom fighters. Indeed, they haul out the notion of “safe space,” which is commonly used as a defence for quieting speakers that the loudest few on campus don’t want to hear. And they take it upon themselves to “protect” the apparently feeble campus community from the perils of intellectually challenging ideas.

The same shoddy rationale was employed by protesters at Massachusetts’ Brandeis University, which was recently pressured into forgoing plans to award an honourary degree to women’s rights activist Ayaan Hirsi Ali. Ali’s personal history is a remarkable testament to resilience — she was genitally mutilated at age five and became a refugee to flee an arranged marriage, yet still rose to become a distinguished member of Parliament, public speaker and author. But her ongoing criticism of Islam, which she has called “imbued with violence,” was deemed “hateful” by a self-appointed group of safe-space-keepers at Brandeis University, and the administration shamefully caved to their demands and revoked their invitation. Rex Murphy summed up the miserable picture in his weekend column, asking, “Is this what Western thought and philosophy at the university has come to — setting up intellectual quarantines lest the immature and frightened be made uncomfortable or to feel unwelcome? Is this university or daycare?”

At the University of Ottawa, where protesters resorted to clapping, yelling and blowing a horn to drown out professor Fiamengo’s speech on rape culture and men’s issues, the answer is self-evident. The case could be made that Fiamengo’s rejection of rape culture, for example, is unhelpful to efforts to help victims of campus violence come forward, but just because protesters attempt to drown out her ideas doesn’t mean they’re not still there. They are — and they have been left unchallenged — because the Revolutionary Student Movement would rather bang on their desks in a futile, overgrown temper tantrum than actually refute her argument with contrary views.

Much ink has been spilled on the notion that contemporary young girls are reluctant to call themselves feminists, a term that they associate with angry, bra-less man-haters of their mother’s or grandmother’s generation. The foolish antics by protesters at the University of Ottawa don’t help to dispel that characterization. If the new women’s movement is about shutting down critical discussion about both men and women, it can count out a whole slew of supporters right now. The protesters at the University of Ottawa buried their message in their behaviour, which was juvenile, counterproductive and thoroughly embarrassing. And if they’re not embarrassed, I am on their behalf.


Shut the fuck up, oh my fucking god

If I wasn’t in the middle of essay writing I would explain all the dumb bullshit things about this but I don’t have the fucking time to make like a 24-point bulleted list right now

In other words, "I’m a stupid asshole that can’t come up with anything good to say so I’ll act like I’m busy writing an essay."

Y’know, intelligent people would just bookmark this and come back to it later prepared with an educated argument, but not you. I wonder, are you doing an essay for your women’s studies course? Lol

  • So Janice Fiamengo intends to “dispel the notion of rape culture”, something that has essentially been repeatedly proven to exist by multiple sociologists and researchers and has withstood numerous other attempts at being dispelled?  I wish her the best of luck on her wild goose chase.
  • Suicide by young men and custody rights after divorce are real issues that affect men today, and are things that feminism is working to correct, as anybody with an actual passing familiarity with feminism knows.
  • I agree with the statements made by the revolutionary students movement 100 percent - implying that rape culture is some sort of nonexistent fantasy is an actively harmful idea that shouldn’t be given equal time on university campuses.
  • I’m just going to paraphrase an earlier post of mine: Universities should be a place of open discussion, but only for things that are actually open to discussion.  Universities are not the place for the entertaining of fantasies like this one.  We don’t need to give equal time to non-debate topics.
  • Are you seriously calling a feminist student organization “the loudest few”?  Here’s a hint: They only seem loud because they sound different from the endless deafening dull roar of male bullshit everywhere else in the world.
  • I had never heard of Ayaan Hirsi Ali before this post, but everything written up there checks out.  Obviously the things she’s gone through in her own life (which I will not argue as to them being awful) have contributed to the formation of her opinion on the subject of Islam, but I don’t think that calling an entire religion “imbued with violence” because of the acts of a few of its members is constructive to debate, and it can easily be interpreted as hate speech against the actual Muslim students who I’m sure attend Brandeis University.
  • Fiamengo’s ideas haven’t been left unchallenged.  As I already said, they’ve been refuted multiple times in the past.  The speech was protested because it’s a reiteration of the same old patriarchal bullshit that’s already been disproved and not something we need to be spending more goddamn time on.
  • "A futile, overgrown temper tantrum".  Because that’s not in any way a diversionary tactic or an attempt to demean these women’s opinion by comparing them to children or anything.  Classy.
  • And why is “angry bra-less man-haters” such a bad thing to be?  Every woman should have the right to be whatever she wants.  That’s the main tenet of feminism.
  • tl;dr: You claim that “the new women’s movement is about shutting down critical discussion”, and that’s not true.  It’s about shutting down obvious attempts at oppression or ideas that benefit oppression.  Sometimes supporters of “the new women’s movement” (I’ll keep using that term, I guess) take it too far, but that’s just what humans do sometimes, and it doesn’t mean that the entire movement is somehow negative or irredeemable.

So yeah, hopefully that gives you something to think about.  I would have posted this originally, but I was proofreading a friend’s senior English thesis.  (I don’t start my women’s studies classes until the semester after next, but thanks for asking.)

1.  RAINN, the national experts on this subject, who advocate for rape abuse victims, who do statistics and studies on this, who are literally the best people to comment on this, recently said that Rape Culture in the west does not exist.

2.  Provide proof please, because we have never seen a rally for male victims of suicide and custody.    Because I was a feminist and I know of many feminist lobbying groups have pushed to keep the “tender years doctrine” as the core of custody cases.  In fact, we’ve seen feminists silence men’s rights discussions on that very issue, via pulling fire alarms to disrupt lectures.

3.  Actually, RAINN said flat out that the feminist viewpoints on rape actually HURT rape victims more.  Rape culture doesn’t exist and feminist mentalities like rape culture and “don’t be that guy” campaigns actually do more damage.

4.  Fuck you and fuck your mentality here.  If you actually looked at statistics, if you actually looked at real data, you’d realize that men are the ones who lack civil rights, liberties and equal treatment compared to women.  Do you still believe in the wage gap?  Then that proves you don’t actually do research because it was proven false on an individual basis.

5.  No, what happened was she had an opinion and people went to silence it.  You try and write it off as ‘patriarchal’, which is the biggest fucking load of bullshit that’s been shoved down our throats since Third Wave began.  Here you are, spewing buzzwords like Patriarchy and Rape Culture, just like every other femininst, without even doing the research that shows that in this modern era, women are the advantaged ones, the protected ones, and the ones who get special treatment in their favor.

6.  It was a temper tantrum.  They fucking acted like idiots, they acted like spoiled brats instead of engaging somebody in debate.  They pulled a fire alarm, which by the way, is a fucking crime and you advocate for that.  You advocate for childish mob mentality.  It was a tantrum.

7.  a.  No, being man hating is wrong.  Just like woman hating is wrong.  You can’t be this fucking dense.  Bigotry, hatred, in any form is WRONG, and to hate men based purely on their sex is sexism.

7.  b.  And here I thought people were saying feminism was about equality.  But hey, neither is right.  Feminism is about power, in particular amassing power for itself by taking a metaphorical bat to women’s knees, condescending to them, instilling fear and a victim complex in them, and then drawing them in like a cult.

8.  No, it is shutting down the exchange of ideas.  You call it oppression because you want to justify shutting it down.  It is breaking the law to do so.  So that is a third buzzword you’ve thrown out there, the holy trinity of third wave feminism:  Patriarchy, Oppression and Rape Culture.

Pointing out hipocricy and demanding that men be given rights that women have isn’t fucking oppression.  It is asking for equality and you’ve been so brainwashed that you see it as evil.  Nevermind that you’re pretty much just condescending to women, portraying them as weak and oppressed, when in reality, they have more rights than men.  Actual, legal rights, like reproductive rights and preferencial treatments in custody, alimony and legal courts.

And before you even goddamn start, I’m a woman, I’m an ex-feminist, I’m a rape survivor and I’m a lesbian.  I have literally everything to gain from supporting Third Wave feminism and I don’t.  You want to know why?  Because I saw how fucking demeaning, condescending, how goddamn awful feminism was for women.  How it told me I’m a victim, how I’m weak without it, how men are evil and men are oppressors, and how everything is the patriarchy’s fault and NOT my own choices, despite my own belief that I have my own autonomy as a woman.

I think the above comment deserves a mic drop.


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